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Thursday, 05th November 2009
christopherattle: I think there’s a perception problem with this whole marriage debate. Everybody sees the institution of marriage through their own lens, so they’re not even debating the same thing. People against gay marriage think it’s about preserving marriage, and that marriage is about reproduction, and clearly gaylords can’t reproduce duh so they shouldn’t be allowed to marry. Meanwhile the rest of us are fucking ourselves silly reproducing out of wedlock, or reproducing in wedlock and then breaking that wedlock, and have come to the conclusion that marriage has nothing to do with reproduction, that there’s certainly nothing god-blessed or sacred about it when half of them end in divorce, and thus marriage really only boils down to one thing: the public affirmation and legal recognition of one person’s love for another. I think any two consenting, mentally sound, and responsible adult human beings should be able to marry. See all those secret code-words? Obviously “adult” would change the game, since most places allow marriage below legal age with parental or judicial consent. I say fuck parental and judicial consent; if you’re not an adult, you’re not getting married. Obviously that part where I mention “mentally sound” would require a great number of people to undergo years of therapy before they’re allowed to marry. But “responsible” is a trick: there’d be some kind of test of cohabitation, shared responsibility (mortgage, pets, children), and shared finance. Half the people who walk down the aisle today probably wouldn’t pass that test. That’s preserving marriage, fuckers.

christopherattle:

I think there’s a perception problem with this whole marriage debate. Everybody sees the institution of marriage through their own lens, so they’re not even debating the same thing.

People against gay marriage think it’s about preserving marriage, and that marriage is about reproduction, and clearly gaylords can’t reproduce duh so they shouldn’t be allowed to marry.

Meanwhile the rest of us are fucking ourselves silly reproducing out of wedlock, or reproducing in wedlock and then breaking that wedlock, and have come to the conclusion that marriage has nothing to do with reproduction, that there’s certainly nothing god-blessed or sacred about it when half of them end in divorce, and thus marriage really only boils down to one thing: the public affirmation and legal recognition of one person’s love for another.

I think any two consenting, mentally sound, and responsible adult human beings should be able to marry.

See all those secret code-words? Obviously “adult” would change the game, since most places allow marriage below legal age with parental or judicial consent. I say fuck parental and judicial consent; if you’re not an adult, you’re not getting married. Obviously that part where I mention “mentally sound” would require a great number of people to undergo years of therapy before they’re allowed to marry. But “responsible” is a trick: there’d be some kind of test of cohabitation, shared responsibility (mortgage, pets, children), and shared finance.

Half the people who walk down the aisle today probably wouldn’t pass that test. That’s preserving marriage, fuckers.